Tuesday, December 2, 2008

Feeling like I'm back in middle school

Normally, I can walk up to anyone and start talking about anything. I'm friendly with all the moms at the monkeys' dance class, with all the moms in school, with pretty much most people I meet. And I am the friend who will come up to anyone and start chatting.

At my Zumba class, there are two girls, who are also Russian. I would love to strike up a conversation with them and maybe become friends. I've chatted with some of the other women there, and they are very nice. For some reason, I am shy in front of these two. I think, from experience with my own kind, that these girls may be opinionated and may look down on me. So, why do I want to be-friend them? No clue. I feel like I'm in middle school all over again.

Tonight, I did come up to them and tell them how they could stream Zumba music (they had asked the teacher about it a couple of weeks ago in class) and they were nice enough but that was the end of the conversation.

I should take a page from the big monkeys book. According to her, she just comes up to people and says "Do you want to be my friend"? If they say yes, she plays with them. If not, she moves on.

I'm sure she gets hurt if they say no, but that doesn't stop her! I guess it's a matter of do as I teach, not as I do :)

Gratuitous photo of the big monkey:


Janna said...

I totally feel your pain. Wouldn't it be nice if we could all be so honest with each other as children are? Yes, there would be hurt feelings, but we would know where we stood.

Thank you for the kind comment on my blog. I am really enjoying reading yours.

KimandCo said...

Maybe pass them a note that says "Do you like me?" and ask them to check the "yes" box or "no" box and pass it back. That may be more elementary school, not middle school, but it was always effective! :)

Cold Spaghetti said...

A friend told my son on his first day of his new school that these were the magic words that 'never fail at making new friends'...


If only it were that simple for adults, too!

April said...

I'm AWFUL at meeting new people. But it's really better for them because once I know you, I won't shut up!